Monthly Archives: November 2013

TG TRUTH

STICK A FORK IN ITSo now that it is over, can we admit a few truths about Thanksgiving?  I hear a lot of people say that Thanksgiving is their favorite holiday.  When you peel away all the layers of butter and get to the core intention of gratitude, I understand the appeal of the holiday.  However in my practical experience, Thanksgiving celebrations rarely reflect that core intention.THANKSGIVING MYTHOne of the most annoying aspects of Thanksgiving is the collective white-washing we find so comforting with regard to the historical facts surrounding early settlers’ contact with native people.  Why are we still spewing this happy pilgrim / helpful native bullshit?  Not to get all preachy, but how ’bout we use Thanksgiving to highlight other examples of neo-colonialist exploitation happening right now?  Or better yet, take a trip to a Reservation and show the kiddies how great it worked out for those helpful “Indians.”  Even though this isn’t a new criticism, there’s still no new narrative. PILGRIM BULLSHITThanksgiving has become more a celebration of gluttony than gratitude.  Now I’m going in on the food  – which if you actually think about it is really disgusting.  The traditional Thanksgiving spread is a depressing two note tune.  SWEET or SAVORY.  There is usually nothing raw, scant spice, and little in the way of contrast.  Veggies drown in heavy sauces or casseroles.  Fruits slug through sugary syrups.  Almost everything else is brown or white.  Every year experts hotly debate the best way to prepare a moist turkey.  Brine?!  Parchment?!  Deep fry?!  Newsflash.  Any which way you prepare the turkey it will be dry and gross.  That’s because turkey is innately dry and gross.  No amount of submerging, poking, or braising the bird will change this eternal truth.  I watch people saw away at dry turkey every year.  No one ever compliments the turkey.  They compliment everything but the turkey.TURKEY REMNANTS

The art of conversation is apparently lost.  People truly don’t know how to communicate with one another anymore.  A series of rapid-fire questions isn’t a conversation; it’s an interrogation.  Don’t force me talk about being a vegetarian when everyone at the table is eating meat.  Don’t ask about work.  This isn’t a job interview.  I hate small talk.  There is an art to finding interesting and inclusive topics of conversation.  Engaging the group requires social tactical skill.  Cultivate it.  Myself included.  DEAD CONVERSATION

 

i’m grateful…

PEANUTS THANKSGIVING…to spend the day with kind, welcoming, and gracious people.yoga sunset…even though I’m working today; it’s a blessing because I love my job. VEG…for access to abundant fresh foods to prepare and share.VEG TG…most of all for you!  Happy Thanksgiving! DCPOOH AND PIGLET

 

The Current Rotation: Thanksgiving Edition

THANKSGIVING MOON DM STITHThanksgiving Moon × DM StithMASSIVE ATTACK BLUE LINESBe Thankful for What You’ve Got × Massive AttackEWF GRATITUDEGratitude  × Earth, Wind & FireJOHNNY CASHThanksgiving Prayer × Johnny CashOINGO BOINGO GHGratitude × Oingo BoingoJOAN BAEZGracias a la Vida × Joan Baez

pre-fall 2014 / Burberry Prorsum

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Getting On

GETTING ONI have a new favorite program called Getting On.  I don’t want to tell you what the show is about because you probably won’t watch it if I do.  This show is so deliciously dark I suspect most people won’t get it and it will get cancelled.  A trifecta of stellar odd-ball actors comprised of Alex Borstein, Niecy Nash, and an always sublime Laurie Metcalf anchor this British reboot.  You will be moved and amused by the first episode and it is entirely focused on mystery feces.  Confused?  Curious?  Get on Getting On (on HBO).  BORSTEIN AND METCALF GETTING ON

Dandies Vegan Marshmallows

DANDIESI admit I long for the classic marshmallow-topped sweet potatoes every year at Thanksgiving, but I never get to enjoy them because of the non-vegetarian friendly gelatin in the marshmallows.  This year will be different because of Dandies vegan marshmallows.  In texture, taste, and quality they equal or exceed regular non-vegetarian marshmallows without relying on gelatin or non-vegan sugar.  Substitute Dandies for this year’s topping so EVERYONE can enjoy the sweet potatoes.  Yum!  SWEET POTATOES AND MARSHMALLOWS

She Forgave Me

MACAQUE DOVE FRIENDSA few weeks ago I posted about a friend I offended.  Recently, she and I had an honest talk and buried the proverbial hatchet.  During the conversation, she admitted that one of her standard responses to conflict was to just cut the person off completely.  She had considered such a response to our situation, but thankfully felt sadness at the idea of us not talking again.  This got me thinking.  When should you cut somebody off and when should you graciously forgive?GANDHI FORGIVE

I keep a very tight-knit coven comprised of a select group.  You are either in or you are out.  I do not take shit.  But I am forgiving.  I’ve had friends drift in and out of the circle over the years.  When someone approaches me with sincere contrition, my compassion won’t let me hold a grudge.  Most friendship offenses I can forgive and forget.  There are major exceptions to this rule.  Betrayal breaks us.  Publicly embarrass me more than once and you’re out.  I can’t with the raging Narcissists anymore.  If you’re a bigot, a liar, a thief, or suffer some other sort of basic fundamental character flaw than you would never make it into my inner-circle anyway.  The lengthy application process and a number of time-honored tests weed out the weak and unworthy.440 GIRLSAlmost everything else, I eventually let go.  Small infractions, petty grievances, thoughtless comments, who among us isn’t guilty of saying or doing something stupid?  Major life events like death, divorce, and disease deserve MAJOR friendship leeway.  Empathy looks good on everyone.  I offer my friends the same grace I wish to receive in response to my less graceful moments.  I rely on them to steer me straight when I veer off course. STEER ME STRAIGHT

In my humble experience (which includes relationships that span 25+ years), the friendships that last are the ones that are allowed to morph, change, and grow with the people involved.  Over a lifetime, friendships may include periods of great intimacy or estrangement, but true pals are always welcomed back into the fold.RORY LANE

Korres Lip Butter Glaze

KORRES LIP BUTTER GLAZE TRIOEven though the predominant lip trend for fall is oxblood matte, a dark lip can be really high-maintenance as well as aging.  Regardless of season, for most occasions I tend to stick with gloss in a light peachy shade.

My new favorite is Korres Lip Butter Glaze.  I don’t like to put a finger in my product for a variety of reasons, so I prefer the squeeze tip application to pot gloss. KORRES LIP BUTTER GLAZE Free from petroleum and mineral oil, the moisturizing formula contains just enough pigment to make a meaningful difference, but is not so color-saturated you need a mirror to apply.  If Greek skincare company Korres is new to you, Lip Butter Glaze is a great place to launch your exploration of their natural, affordable, effective products.  I’ve yet to be disappointed by one of their offerings. PINK LIP

pre-fall 2014 / Akris

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