Monthly Archives: February 2015

wind machine

FANThe solution is so simple.  I don’t know why I didn’t think of it before.  A working window in the bathroom is ideal, but a luxury for most.  Those of us with interior bathrooms or those blessed with glass exposure, but not openable windows must devise a strategy for airing out the bathroom.  Overhead exhaust fans don’t really cut it.  Especially if you are trying to air out a really steamy room after a nice hot shower.  I put an antique-style fan in my bathroom and love how it clears the steam, odors, and heat efficiently.  Air movement discourages the growth of mildew and mold, and the white noise provides a nice privacy buffer.  Getcha a wind machine, girl. ANTIQUE LASKO FAN

Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less

ESSENTIALISMI’m reading a really fantastic book called Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of LessGreg McKeown has shifted my perspective and put a name to a philosophy I’ve dabbled with for years.  I was dithering over a few issues, and I’ve already used the standards and methods offered in Essentialism to make key decisions.  Much messiness results from quick yeses and slow nos.  The philosophy of Essentialism has me taught to celebrate and embrace “No,” and the book provides plenty of logical and well-backed explanations for why your life improves when you have the courage to eliminate the people-pleasing bullshit.  As I’ve started applying the principles consistently, I’ve found liberation and a drastic reduction in stress.  As your time frees up, this book recommends you sleep more to further enhance productivity.  In sum, this bestseller is full of advice you actually want to follow.CLEAR NO

Happy Sheep Year


Welcome to the calmer, softer, prosperous Sheep year.  Sheep are mellow animals that prefer to navigate the world in a group working together for protection.  A soft, wooly serenity engulfs us for the next twelve months.  Some of us will enjoy the togetherness while others will find it stifling.  The hard-working character of the horse dominated 2014, but this year is not about ardor, money, wealth, or ascension.  A fixation on such materialism is considered a crass distraction in a time when providing essential needs for all is much more in fashion.  Sheep prefer peace, tranquility, and routine.  When conflict does arise it will take on a passive aggressive flavor.  The sheep encourages quick conciliation so as not to disturb the overall well-being of the herd.

BABY SHEEPWishing you a prosperous and happy Sheep Year!



On apologizing when you aren’t sorry

RETROGRADEThose of you who read your horoscopes this month know Mercury just went out of retrograde yesterday.  Well, before that pesky planet could come correct, I stepped in it with a number of important authority figures in my life.  Ugh.  CARRIE STEPPED IN ITWhile in hindsight, I could have handled the situations with more grace, there is kernel of righteousness to my actions in both scenarios.  Since my actions are guided by the best intentions, I find it most difficult to choke out an apology just because the end result wasn’t ideal.  FORCED APOLOGYEven though I’ve designed my life to involve the least amount of shit eating possible, sometimes, we all have to eat it to smooth things over when the power dynamic is unequal.  EAT YO PIETake responsibility for your short-coming in the situation.  In one of the aforementioned instances, someone took offense to my directness, so I asked forgiveness for my “impertinent tone.”  I won’t apologize for the content of the sentiment because it was right on.  The dickhead interrupted my class talking loudly with a total lack of courtesy, mindfulness, and respect.  I turned to him and said, “Can this wait?  It’s really distracting.”  He didn’t like me calling him out on his bad behavior in front of the class.  Now because his ego is wounded over his rudeness, I have to apologize because he didn’t like the sound of the honest truth?  I’m happy to take responsibility for my delivery, but I won’t take on the responsibility for his bad behavior.  APOLOGIZING EGOWithout excusing or abdicating your part in the conflict, narrowly tailor your apology to include only the conduct for which you are truly sorry.  There’s no need to give away all your power especially when the other party shares in a good portion of the blame.  That said, if you really blew it, own your fuck-up completely.  There’s nothing grosser than a weasel trying to wriggle out of responsibility.WEASEL

Monday Morning Management Meeting: Missing Link

LINKEDIN DALIEnough with the fucking LinkedIn.  I must get a dozen LinkedIn invitations a month.  I barely know most of the people who send them, and we have no professional affiliation.  Even if we did, I wouldn’t respond to their invitations anyway.  First of all, LinkedIn was hacked, doesn’t anyone remember that?  Secondly, LinkedIn continues to get sued for a number of shady tactics and privacy violations, including for (allegedly) sending out emails to users contacts without permission and allowing paid subscribers to search for references of other members without consent.  The site imports contacts and sends those annoying “connect on LinkedIn” emails to everyone you ever knew, including your exes.  You know how many LinkedIn invitations I’ve gotten from long lost exes?  Does he really want to reconnect or did LinkedIn just hijack his contacts?  See why this site is rife with conflict?  I won’t participate.  Let me ask all you LinkedIn enthusiasts: has it done shit for your career?  Yeah, that’s what I thought.  Instead of thinning out your impact with such an impersonal approach, apply focused energy to building relationships with a few key people who can really help get you where you want to go. LINKEDIN SUPPORT GROUP

3 for Friday

FIFTY SHADES OF GREY1) The Fifty Shades of Grey movie is going to suck ass.  The books were a joke and the movie will be worse.  I don’t know who these hopeful presale bitches are breaking box office records.  Strike that, yes I do; the same bitches that bought tickets to that indefensible Twilight mess.  Charlie Hunnam really dodged a semi-sized dookie by dropping out of this project.  BRUCE JENNER2) Is it possible to support the courageous bravery of Bruce Jenner’s transition and still be a little unsettled by it?GARY SHIPLEY TEEN MOM3) Best product to come out of a reality show?  Teen Mom’s Gary Shipley launched his own line of prophylactics. GARY SHIPLEY CONDOM


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February 2015 Horoscopes


AQUARIUSHappy Birthday Aquarius!  The Sun empowers you in February and there’s an undeniable zing to your energy.  Even with your Aquarian glow, mind your manners during Mercury’s retrograde, our collective cross to bear through the 11th.  Miscommunication causes misunderstandings which have the potential for conflict.  Haven’t you seen Three’s Company?  February 18th is a particularly fortuitous day for you.  A new moon brings you the opportunity for fresh starts and planting the seedlings of future growth.  Your mission, should you choose to accept it: focus your romantic energy on one person and discover your capability for a deep and lasting partnership.



February requires a good deal of personal tidying up and the excuses must stop if you are truly going to evolve.  Pisces are a bit delusional, and that’s because you aren’t much for the nitty-gritty details.  Apply discipline to get dirty deep in minutiae in February.  Start with the stack of paperwork that serves as a wellspring of stress.  Implement and keep up with simple healthy routines.  Pisces tend towards the elaborate, but often find you lack the attention to detail to follow through on such demanding self-imposed requirements.  You are so romantic Pisces; it is one of your best qualities. Chocolate dip your Valentine in love this year.  Your mission, should you choose to accept it: organize your life to support your best health.



February is the month of love and this year is rich with possibilities for romance and pregnancy.  Have you been craving a deeper level of commitment and additional responsibility?  Take the lead and communicate your expectations to your partner.  Everyone appreciates your gutsy personal style, but lately the Aries aesthetic has skewed a bit fug.  One risky statement is fine, but keep the rest of your look simple, well-made, and tailored.  Remember that Mercury’s in retrograde through the 11th, so that explains why your cell phone is on the fritz.  Your mission, should you choose to accept it: propose.



The first half of February illuminates your career ambitions and trajectory, Taurus.  Strip away the superfluous to focus your full energy on where you really want to go.  Make plans through the 11th, and then when Mercury comes correct you can begin to implement action.  Take extra care at work where you are prone to making errors under the influence of Mercury’s retrograde.  Some of you will use the Leo full moon as a good excuse to get up and out of your current living situation.  Go for it; a change of scene would do you good.  In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, love, and goodwill, your mission should you choose to accept it: let go of that venomous grudge you’ve been clinging to like a like raft.


Mercury your ruler is in retrograde and that has you all misty-eyed for the past, Gemini.  Sentimental and nostalgic on the inside, blunt and offensive on the outside, temper your truth-telling tongue through the 11th.  Your version of the truth is a little too bitter for some to swallow.  Use your knack for technology to connect with others in February. Whatever plans you implement during the new moon on the 18th will see full bloom in July.  Think longer-term.  Also on the 18th, the light shifts towards your career and you get a surge of ambition during an already successful period for you professionally.  Your mission should you choose to accept it: exhibit as much compassion as you do intelligence.


February’s gotcha thinking about a special few, specifically those with whom you share your resources, Cancer.  Family-oriented and homespun, tap into your inner circle to firm up your sense of long-term security.  Cancer drifts towards the dramatic during Mercury’s retrograde, when you hear yourself picking an unnecessary argument, consider whether it’s a battle even worth winning.  Technological, travel, and money glitches are all on the menu through the 11th.  February 3rd is your best day for career recognition.  February 18th is the best day to evaluate your relationship for long-term viability.  Your mission should you choose to accept it: protect your assets with a financial plan.


Mercury’s still in retrograde through February 11th, Leo, and for you that means random inconvenient delays often a result of the 2nd hand effects of other folks’ bad luck.  The third’s full moon stokes your fires of self-expression.  Take advantage of this blessing of energy to recognize what you’ve manifested over the last half year or what you would like to initiate now to bloom in July.  The 18th is Leo’s most sexy and auspicious day.  Your mission should you choose to accept it: use Valentine’s Day to go hard for that cutie you’ve had your eye on.



In February, the Sun stokes your fires of organization.  Messy Virgos may balk at tidy stereotypes associated with your sign.  That’s really too narrow a reading on your kind.  What you like is control and you assert it by organizing, specifically in the areas of health and wellness.  Mercury spins retrograde through the 11th and as a governing planet; you may find your best laid plans run amok.  The 3rd presents a meaningful opportunity for healing.  Finally, you are able to see situations from a bird’s eye view providing much needed perspective.  Your mission should you choose to accept it: enough with the martyr shit.


You’re like a warm hug this in February, Libra.  Get out and flaunt that famous Libran beauty.  You’ll be welcomed at gatherings for the fun, playful, and sexy energy you add.  With this surge of outgoing communicative energy, also comes the allure to manipulate situations.  With Mercury in retrograde through the 11th, there will be times this month you think you’re cute and you’re really just rude.  Much of that discernment comes from sobriety, so ease up on the libations, bitch.  Your mission should you choose to accept it: open your heart to love.


Make way for a softer Scorpio in February.  Tidy up your nest and settle in to a couple good weeks of domesticity.  When your home is ordered, your life is easier.   You and a friend may have a come to Gsus moment this month.  Should such a conversation arise, navigate it with compassion.  You already know you can “win” any argument, but often at the cost of relationships.  Just let her have her say.  February 3rd is your superstar career day.  Your mission should you choose to accept it: focus only on what is essential.



February’s a brainy month for you, Sagittarius.  If you are thinking about sending out a round of resumes this is a great time to interview.  Sags come off especially well-spoken and confident this month.  On the 3rd, a continuing education seminar wouldn’t hurt, especially if you can turn it into a little trip.  Buzzy communication lights up your phone and you love the wellspring of attention, but a few wires may get crossed thanks to Mercury’s retrograde that runs through the 11th.  Your mission should you choose to accept it: read a book.



Capricorn amps productivity in all areas in February making this month super busy and likely to fly by.  Mercury’s retrograde annoys you with clerical errors and computer glitches through the 11th.  February 3rd is your best day for a major merger – personal or financial.  February 18th is your best day for money and setting up the groundwork of future stability.  Take some time the second half the February to enjoy creative pursuits.  Balance the work with with fun play.  Your mission should you choose to accept it: accept change like an old friend.