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Are you Brave?

SUZY KASSEMLemme tell you a little story about how I was welcoming students to the studio.  I saw a car pull in a parking spot and seconds later a big truck hauling portable toilets sped in and screeched to a halt.  The potty truck driver jumped out and rushed over to the car and started yelling at the driver through a quarter cracked window (don’t ever lower your window to engage with your attacker, dumbass).  I watched first to see if a few profanities would satisfy potty truck and he’d be on his way, but when I saw him continue to yell and gesticulate, I decided to intercede.  Now, let me tell you there were no less than 3 grown men and 2 women right there on the premises witnessing this whole scene. Did anyone even twitch a muscle to go out and deescalate the situation?  Everyone just stood around jaw agape as I marched outside and assertively yelled to hysterical potty driver “Sir, is there a problem?  Sir, this is private property. Do I need to call the police?”  Then I loudly ordered the others to take photos and write the phone number and company name off his truck.  Defeated, potty truck retreated, and I pulled the shaken student (a six foot tall middle aged white dude) into the studio.CERSEI

After everything calmed down, the women were all, “You’re badass” blah blah.  I’m not badass, and I’m not bragging.  This type shit will surely get me shot one day, but I’m no weak ass bitch.  I can’t stand the sight of injustice, violence, or bullying and I won’t standby idly.  The three guys standing around silently, they are cowards.  They know it.  I know it.  It was plain as pie today.

 The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.

Skills for Life: on bullies

ASSHOLEI’m an Alpha.  Nobody who knows me would contest this.  That means in my worst moments I can be a bully.  It’s just one of the many flaws on my mental personal improvement list.  The upside to knowing how to bully is knowing how to handle bullies.  This morning, I encountered a doozy.  This rich, white, entitled asshole is accustomed to getting his ass kissed by everyone.  Boy, did he get a Sunday morning surprise when he quickly realized I’m not in the ass kissing business.  He was rude.  I stood my ground.  He threw a tantrum.  I firmly and politely looked him in the eye, unmoved by his childish antics.  It was as if he’d never heard the word “no.”  Within 5 minutes he relented.  So incredibly uncomfortable with my powerful, direct, and uncompromising stance, he couldn’t cope.  In the face of true courage and strength, he crumbled like an insecure little bitch.  Money and status are common external qualities and neither one makes you powerful.  Power comes (in part) from courage – a much rarer internally-cultivated quality.  Don’t ever let anybody push you around.  Stand powerfully with your courageous heart and watch the weak wither.

Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear,not absence of fear.

— Mark Twain