I’ve experienced significant loss and am close to others who have experienced major loss, and I still stutter for the right words to speak amidst a tragedy. When searching for the right words to say, remember these are not them…
What are you going to do now?
I’m going to grieve, bitch.
At least her suffering is over. 
But my suffering has only begun.
What can I do to help?
I know this is the most obvious and seemingly kind offering in a crisis, but the truly helpful don’t ask, they just do. Not all of us operate on that level of selflessness (myself included), but remember if you do offer help be prepared for the person to take you up on it. If they do, YOU MUST FOLLOW THROUGH.
1) Don’t get lured into exploitative direct marketing or pyramid schemes. I recently was invited to an Arbonne event by someone. Arbonne is a “natural” beauty company sold through representatives in the vein of Mary Kay or Avon. At first, I thought this person was just asking me for a friendly drink. Then it turned into: watch these chicks get Mercedes for selling skincare. Despite the aggressive tactics, it is almost impossible to make any money with the slim profit margins in these shady ventures. If they ask you for money up front, back away.
2) Why waste energy on enterprises that don’t value what you have to offer? As you well know, life is short. You can waste yours lining unworthy pockets or you can refuse to settle for anything less than a fulfilling use of your time, talent, and resources. 
3) Please don’t resort to performing sexual favors; depleting your plasma; permanently moving back in with your parents; signing up for a reality show; sacrificing your pride and dignity, or staying on at a job you truly loathe. 
Don’t be so literal, just because the Death card appears doesn’t mean you’re dying. Brace yourself for change, however, because Death represents out with le vieux, in with le nouveau. Thirteenth of the Major Arcana, Scorpios, this one is all you. The Grim Reaper rolls in on his white horse and levels the field. Rich, poor, old, young, death is the great equalizer. Just like the Phoenix, from destruction, out of the ash, rebirth follows. Prepare to transform.