I’ve experienced significant loss and am close to others who have experienced major loss, and I still stutter for the right words to speak amidst a tragedy. When searching for the right words to say, remember these are not them…
What are you going to do now?
I’m going to grieve, bitch.
At least her suffering is over.
But my suffering has only begun.
What can I do to help?
I know this is the most obvious and seemingly kind offering in a crisis, but the truly helpful don’t ask, they just do. Not all of us operate on that level of selflessness (myself included), but remember if you do offer help be prepared for the person to take you up on it. If they do, YOU MUST FOLLOW THROUGH.