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Adult Lessons from Bringing Up Bebe

BRINGING UP BEBE COVER ARTI was desperate for something to read and in a weird mood, so I downloaded Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting.  As you well know, I am not a parent and have a deeply instilled aversion to most children.  I didn’t even like children when I was a child, so I’m not really sure why I wanted to read a parenting book.  As I read the book, it sent me into an analysis of my own deeply flawed upbringing.  I’m no gushing francophile either, but Pamela Druckerman’s conversational and confessional writing style drew me into her world of raising little Americans in Paris.DRUCKERMAN KIDSIn reading the parenting guide, I was struck just how few adults (including moi) have learned some of the basic lessons institutionalized in the French child-rearing philosophy.  Like what you ask?  How about….CA VA1) attendre – to wait.  According to Druckerman, instead of saying “stop” French parents say “attend” or “wait.”  This practice instills a sense of patience in the child and reminds the child that the world does not stop at his or her command.  Now how many rude and self-important adults do you know who could benefit from an understanding of this very basic principle?   CHILDREN WAIT2) cadre – Druckerman refers to the cadre or framework for French parenting.  Essentially, the framework consists of strict boundaries with much freedom within those boundaries.  For instance, in France a child can enjoy cake, chocolate, or other indulgences everyday, but only at the designated snack time and in a reasonable portion.  Perhaps with a little structure to my eating times I wouldn’t be devouring Chocolove pretzel bars at 10 am.  GOUTER3) sage – The French prefer their children wise and calm.  A kid must exercise self-control as well as be able to amuse oneself.  Based on my limited observations, self-control may be the single greatest factor in crafting a successful life.  Furthermore, a grown-ass person really has no excuse for complaining of boredom.  The French understand you must make your own fucking fun.LOVE HATE BABY

Couture printemps 2012: des pantalons skinny

Lee Hye Jung struts in a skinny pant suit for Maxime Simoens.

Couture Printemps 2012: sorbet framboise

Maria Kashleva serves Amy Winehouse (I-Dream-of-Jeannie-edition) in raspberry sorbet for Jean Paul Gaultier.

Le meilleur de l’automne 2011 Couture

We miss you Stella!  How nice to see you walking for Chanel.

boulangerie baguettes

In the postcarb gluten-free era, bread has almost become a dirty word, but in France bread is always fashionable.  Nothing compares to a baguette from the boulangerie – until now. La Petit Français Baguettes go from freezer to the oven after a brief thaw.  Imported from France and incomparable to any other product available, these baguettes most closely resemble the warm and comforting original.

“If thou tastest a crust of bread,

thou tastest all the stars and all the heavens.”

Robert Browning

Sunday with Lea Seydoux


Need a little tickle?  Please try the award winning Story of O, a 1954 bondage, submission, and domination literary classic written by Anne Desclos under the pseudonym Pauline Réage.

Desclos was inspired by her lover’s challenge that women couldn’t write like the Marquis de Sade.  Well she sure shut him the fuck up.  It’s irrelevant whether BDSM is your thing or not, Story of O is easily one of the most influential and cannibalized books of the last hundred years — an absolute must read.