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write more letters

I want to write more letters in 2012, but unlined paper gives me agita.  I can’t manage to write straight without lines, and the gradual slant ain’t cute.  That’s why I adore this whimsical lined paper from La Papierre.  The variety of themes range from the sweet to the sinister.  If you prefer unlined notes, the shop stocks a well-rounded collection of both types.  In addition to stationery, La Papierre has fun envelopes, postcards, and other interesting and enjoyable printed materials. You can find a lovely selection of reasonably-priced options of La Papierre products on Etsy.

It’s Blanche’s Birthday Bitches

Alexis and Jennifer say Whatever to their Friendship?

Just finished Whateverland, the new book by Alexis Stewart and Jennifer Koppelman Hutt.  The thrown together self-proclaimed anti self-help book doesn’t add much to the conversation.  Filled with anecdotes and affluence-skewed life advice, the content retreads material familiar to fans of Whatever Martha! or the pair’s satellite radio show.  The throwaway read was quite the disappointment until I reached the conclusion, where out of no where the two announce, “Our working relationship and friendship were great while they lasted.”  Odd, right?  It is one thing to have a falling out with a friend; it is another to confess it in the book you co-wrote.  Last week Jennifer and Alexis appeared on The Today Show and much ado has been made about Stewart’s icy demeanor.  She was chilly, but when has Alexis ever been warm and fuzzy?Alexis made a few pointed digs about “clingyness” and serving the silent treatment, but so far the details of the friendship demise are sketchy.  Jennifer appears to be taking the high road, even going so far as to say she “loves” Alexis despite their rift.  So what’s the story ladies?  Unless Jennifer dropped your new baby Jude on her head or something, Alexis should really get over it and stop acting like she’s flush with friends.  A loyal friend is hard to findLet the little things go and forgive.

A mid-week mid-90′s revival with Portishead

This week I had the pleasure of visiting two of my very favorite people in one of the world’s most enjoyable cities for the Portishead show.  No, we did not stumble into a portal which transported us back to 1994.  Before we arrived, one of the crew asked what the crowd would be like.  “Old,” I replied.  Lest we forget that 1994 was 17 unforgiving years ago.Truthfully, I haven’t listened to much of Third, Portishead’s most recent record from oh-eight.  During a certain moment in time, however, I wore Dummy out.  In the mid-nineties, ubiquitous Dummy was in everyone’s collection, at least in my drugged-up slutty circles.  Is there anything druggier or sluttier than PortisheadSour Times for Good Times.Turns out, Portishead live is a deeply conflicting experience.  Apart from some short-lived glitchy sound issues, the selections from Dummy were sublime.  In particular, Wandering Star was a well-executed highlight. With regret I must confess I did not connect to their newer more “experimental” offerings.  At their worst, Portishead sounded like the off-key bastard child of Sonic Youth and Evanescence.  It was two songs worth of misery interrupted by an old familiar fave followed by more loud pain.  The contrast was jarring.  The crowd was especially limp and unresponsive to the less familiar material as is usually the case, but in this instance magnified.  One review described the audience as “rapt,” which really wasn’t an accurate reading of my area of the room.  Curious about the set list?  Silence, Hunter, Mysterons, The Rip, Sour Times, Magic Doors, Wandering Star, Machine Gun, Over, Glory Box, Chase the Tear, Cowboys, Threads, with an encore: Roads, We Carry On.During Glory Box my friend leaned forward and yelled in my ear, “Oh yeah, this is that song from The Craft.  I totally feel like I’m being sexually assaulted in the woods by Skeet Ulrich.”  And that pretty much sums up the experience.

September 2011 Horoscopes

Virgo

Happy Birthday virtuous Virgos!  Rooted in Earth and known for mutable and feminine qualities, Virgo communicates eloquently and possesses impeccable manners.  This month you’ll be especially articulate and persuasive.  In September, carefully mind your bank accounts and holdings.  Relationships are simpatico.  You and your partner feel especially synchronized.  Keep the wallet shut.  If you must spend, research bargains.  Special Virgo birthday shout out to my long time EDF Lisa.  Love you girl.

Libra

Libras are vulnerable to identity theft this month.  It will come from an unexpected person or organization.  Mindfully manage personal information in all dealings this September.  Sloppiness will cost you.  After some misunderstandings last month, you find a way to make things right with your charm and diplomacy.  A genuinely forgiving attitude can salvage relationships.  September brings on spendy temptations.  Maintain a conservative attitude towards purchases.

Scorpio

That long hard run has finally caught up to you, forcing Scorpios to spend most of September nursing themselves back to health.  Don’t be thinking you are the exception to the rule of proper diet and ample rest.  You more than anyone suffer when you let those areas of self-care slide.  New friends enter the mix this month.  Let your guard down a little and enjoy some fresh energy.  The career takes off this month.  Build a trustworthy team to support your professional ascent.

Sagittarius

Sags look forward to an evenly paced September.  You might get a little restless and plan a fun trip or finally engage in that activity you’ve been meaning to try.  If that new activity happens to be sexual, remember dirty things end up on the internet.  All this creativity floods relationships with happiness.  Those unattached may convert friendship to love this September.  Professionally, all looks favorable with new opportunities on the horizon.

Capricorn

Capricorns feel lost right now professionally and personally.  Afraid of exhibiting vulnerability, you stifle your true voice.  When Caps reveal the truth, success will follow in both areas.  September is a better month for major splurges.  Evaluate the options carefully and then move forward.  An opportunity for a trip or visitors materializes this month.  Try to make it happen.

Aquarius

Occasionally, the stars align and the clouds rain down good fortune.  Such is the case for Aquarius this September.  Games of luck and chance could be especially profitable.  Visits with your partner’s family may send chills up your spine.  Swallow down all those little jabbing comments with a gulp (of booze).  Transportation could get hectic during the last half of the month.  Hitch a ride, or better yet walk.

Pisces

Pisces shine in September.  You trade in melancholia this month for a buoyant mood.  This sunny outlook brightens and lightens the heavy hearts of those surrounding you.  Even though Pisces burst with energy in September, listen carefully.  Don’t get behind with responsibilities even when fun calls.  Prioritize wisely and you can fit everything in this busy September.

Aries

September brings a little romantic intrigue for Aries.  Evaluate the situation with a skeptical eye.  Stay mellow this month and keep social engagements casual and easy.  After the 18th, the planets provide a social jolt, but feelings remain murky.  Seemingly out of nowhere, another option pops up at the end of September.  Wait for the reveal before making any permanent decisions.

Taurus

Prepare for struggle and strife this September, Taurus.  People will drive you crazy with their agendas and maneuvering.  Try not to get too upset.  You know deep down that focused and thorough work pays off.  On the relationship front, an interesting opportunity arises.  Don’t dismiss this person just because the immediate impression isn’t romantic.  Listen to your inner nudge; it could save your ass this month.

Gemini

You’ve done well lately financially Gemini and you will continue to prosper.  Keep on eye on the portfolio this September or your investments could take a hit.  After a busy summer, relax and nest this month.  Keep activities family-oriented and home-centric.  Make further connections by getting to know friends of friends.  At times you disregard your instincts and first impressions.  If something or someone feels off, it is.

Cancer

Your purse gets slutty this month and opens her legs indiscriminately to fulfill your shopping desires.  Tell that ho to slow her roll so you don’t end up one bankrupt Cancer.  That control freak in your life – avoid that motherfucker in September.  Some fun creeps in by way of day trips.  Maybe consider an end of summer romp in the amusement park for nostalgia’s sake?  Good sex acts as a prelude to promising relationship progress.

Leo

Leos get bogged down this September with constant little drains on their time and energy.  Even though you may feel like making a hasty retreat, avoiding the figurative stack of correspondence and calls won’t make them disappear.  Keep out of the intense fray at work.  The hostile environment has got folks acting a fool.  Don’t be one of them.  September’s unpredictable weather brings travel delays.  You’ve been warned.  This month put your balls on the table and ask you-know-who out on a date.  This person is worth courting.

Local Beauty: LaBoe Salon

As some of you know, I’ve been stuck on the buckle of the Bible belt for much of the summer on account of some personal tragedy.  It hasn’t been easy or fun, but one special lady certainly brought a little sunshine to some very cloudy days. The very talented Joyce Bunch owns a reputable salon in Morristown, Tennessee called LaBoe.  Picture Dolly Parton from Steel Magnolias and you are almost there.  Kind-hearted with a gentle touch, Joyce breaks out some cutting edge treatments in this little town.  For example, have you ever had a cold saline jet peel?  Very enjoyable. Now most of you might count your lucky stars that Morristown, Tennessee isn’t on the travel itinerary for this year.  However, you too can enjoy a little LaBoe goodness.  She produces a top-notch and reasonably priced beauty line.  Check out www.laboesalon.com for an excellent array of potent products.  Free from fragrance and artificial color, Joyce keeps it real and focuses on results-oriented skincare.  I’d put her glycolic face cream up against any prestige brand.  The LaBoe skincare line comes in generously sized containers that make you feel like you are getting two for one.  

If you live in east Tennessee and you aren’t at the Cracker Barrel right now (don’t get mad, I heart okra too) you must visit Joyce Bunch for a little derma-TLC.  For those geographically far-flung, get on these products.  Your friends will be dying to know your skincare secret. 

 

Les Copains

A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same.

Elbert Hubbard

Bridal Makeup: The I do’s and don’ts

My dear friend Sam is getting married soon and she recently inquired about how to achieve a natural, dewy, minimalist look for her big day.  She cited Kate’s (Moss not Middleton, ya’ll) recent nuptials as inspiration.Wedding makeup is tricky business.  The bride must consider lighting, photography, and longevity.  Often what works on camera can look down right freakish in person.  Furthermore, who can be bothered with endless touch-ups on such an important occasion?Most brides aim for subtle enhancement to show their best selves.  The approach for each bride must be individually tailored to achieve optimal results, but there are a few hard and fast rules for wedding day makeup that simply should not be ignored.Despite what you might have learned from last weekend’s Jerseylicious marathon, a smoky eye doesn’t work for everyone.  Those with hooded eyelids or smaller eyes should stick to lighter neutral shadows.  A smoky eye can easily melt into a raccoon eye without proper preservation.  If you insist on breaking out some intense shadow for the big day, have at it, but for the love of Aucoin please no super bright colors.  Save the hot pink and purple; this is your wedding day and not a club crawl through the Jersey Shore.Keep shimmer to a minimum.  A little here and there to catch the light is fine – corner of the eyes, brow bone, a smidge on the cheek bones, a dab in the center of the lip or arch of the cupid’s bow (NOT all locations por favor).  Shimmer reads prominently in photographs.  If you go crazy with the highlighter all over; you’ll appear oily and shiny in your pictures.  Soft matte works best on camera.Dramatic brides may consider a red lip.  Proceed with caution.  Red lips are extremely high-maintenance.  Gotta keep it off the teeth, off the dress, and reapply often for maximum punch.  A scarlet smoocher can easily dominate the face and take over a photo.  The wrong shade of red causes the rest of the face to recede.  The tendency is to overcompensate with too much color elsewhere or look washed out.  Consider a subtle red wash on the lips to keep features balanced.Go easy with the foundation and concealer application.  Let your skin and inner light shine through.  Remember the aim of these products is to perfect the skin, not mask it.  Splurge on high-end foundation and concealer, even if you go budget in other areas.  Without a perfected base, the whole look crumbles.Invest in a primer.  A decent primer provides staying power.  Primer is the key to 8-12 hours of longevity, so you look as good at the end of the reception as you did walking down the aisle.

 

OH-HI-GLOW

Holding down Ohio, gorgeous DC reader KB wrote requesting advice on how to fake a Miami glow in the Midwest:

“I would like to look sun-kissed but don’t want to damage my skin.  I got sunburned by accident two weeks ago and my skin looked worse almost immediately.  And not just redness, wrinkly.  So the issue is twofold; I’m interested in the Demeter Clarc recommendations for sunscreens as well as a way to fake the tan.  I’ve never done a tanning lotion or bronzer (more interested in faking through the latter…I feel like there are scary nasty things in those turn-ya-orange lotions).  So I don’t know which is better, how to apply, or what yields the best results.  Also, if there are products in the mid priced range, I’d be much obliged as well.”

I’ve avoided giving general advice about bronzers.  Achieving the perfect bronze usually requires a bit of trial and error.  That said, I’m not about to leave you beyond the pale, so here are a few tips and recommendations to get you started down the terracotta brick road.

The first and most important rule of bronzing is that the product MUST be matte.  No shimmer.  No sparkles.  No glitters (ever, anywhere).  Add luminosity later; this is not the place.Next KB, you gotta decide on liquid or powder formula.  Both have advantages and disadvantages, therefore it is worthwhile to have one of each in your arsenal for different occasions and purposes.

Let’s start with liquid/cream/gel options.  On a really good skin day, this type of bronzer replaces foundation for good glow.  This time of year, mix bronzer with foundation for a subtle transition to summer.  Many of these products contain sunscreen too.

Luxury: Bobbi Brown All Over Bronzing Gel SPF 15, Soleil Tan de Chanel.Budget: Organic Wear Liquid Bronzer, Bonne Bell Gel Bronzer.

Powders are more a common choice, but also the source of many a makeup mistake.  Finding the right color is super challenging.  For the most part, avoid red or orange undertones (unless you are a red-head).  Look for a brown base.  Go too dark for your skin tone and risk looking muddy.  Fair-skinned folks look for light brown sandy shades.  Often when a brand offers two shades, the lighter one can look orange and the darker one is too dark.  Think café au lait.

Luxury: Nars Bronzer in LagunaThe Balm Bahama Mama Bronzer.

Budget:  Rimmel Natural Bronzer, Organic Wear Natural Bronzer.

Once you find the perfect product in the most flattering shade, keep these bronzing commandments in mind.

1) Exfoliate first.

2) Matte finish only.  Said it once before, but it bears repeating.

3) Don’t forget the neck!  Blend softly all the way down to the collarbone.

4) Consider blush compatibility.

5) Less is more.  Forehead, nose bridge, chin, temples, cheekbones, stop there.